We tend to believe that what we think is true. I have given this concept a lot of thought lately while putting this in perspective on my journey to self acceptance.
I generally do not think highly of myself. I always have something to reproach myself about and I tend to feel responsible for things that are not in my control. These thoughts generally develop into believing I am not doing enough, I am not achieving enough, shortly, I am not good enough.
My thoughts do not leave me in peace and I know that so many others deal with the same issue.
Our brain tries continuously to explain things in this complex world with complex situations and complex relationships. Our mind works around the clock in order to comprehend and analyse things around us. It is a survival mechanism.
We ask ourselves questions like: “Why is this happening to me? Why does he not talk to me? Why did I not succeed this exam?” Generally the answer to those questions is not a kind one towards ourselves.
The thought answering our questions, gives the illusion of a solution. “Oh, that’s why he doesn’t talk to me: he does not like me, I am not interesting enough or not clever enough or not beautiful enough”. We feel rejected and it is all fruit of our own thoughts! While fact checking I could possibly come to the conclusion that he did not talk to me because he was distracted, he had a bad day, he was extremely busy or he was just too shy…
Our brain can never be switched off. However, awareness about your destructive mind patterns can help a lot. You could just sit down and concentrate on your breathing; your mind won’t be switched off but through training you will be able recognise the little critical voice in your head telling you off for one reason or another.
While before I was not at all aware of this and of the consequences this little critical voice had on my well-being and perception of the things around me and I tended to be carried away by these thoughts, I now sometimes seem to be able to escape from the vicious and downwards spiral.
Sometimes I am able to let go of these thoughts generating these nagging feelings and I manage to consciously concentrate on somethings else. Something which is more enjoyable. By doing this I get on top of these thoughts and tell them who is boss in my head.
Therefore my conclusion, it is not because you think you are not enough that your are not enough. We are enough and should give ourselves credit for it.
WE ARE ENOUGH.
Aug 15, 2021
My name is Elisa; I am a woman, a mum, a daughter, a friend and a wife… and a passionate ceramicist/potter. 
